By P Mohan Chandran
Is Sharing Becoming an Outdated Concept in Modern Parenting?
In the fabric of childhood memories, certain threads shimmer with a timeless wisdom, transcending generations. For many, these memories are often woven around simple acts of sharing – a chocolate bar divided among siblings, a favorite toy lent to a friend. These seemingly small gestures were, in reality, our first lessons in empathy, compassion, and the joy of giving. But in today’s world, where the emphasis often lies on individual possession and personal space, are we inadvertently steering our children away from these valuable life lessons?
The Chocolate Parable: A Lesson in Sharing
Remember the days when a single bar of chocolate was to be shared among family members? There was a subtle lesson embedded in this act – the understanding that joy multiplied when shared. Yes, there might have been squabbles over who got the bigger piece, but these moments were more than just about chocolate. They were about learning fairness, negotiation, and the importance of considering others’ feelings.
The Shift in Parental Approaches
Fast forward to today, where many parents, in a bid to ensure fairness and avoid conflict, provide each child with an equal share – be it chocolates, toys, or attention. While this approach might maintain peace, it raises a question: Are we depriving children of the opportunity to learn about sharing and empathy organically?
The Emergence of the 'My' Culture
The frequent use of 'my' – my toys, my room, my choices, my life – though seemingly innocuous, might be emblematic of a deeper shift towards individualism and self-centric thinking. The concept of ‘mine’ reinforces a sense of possession and entitlement, inadvertently nurturing the ego over empathy.
Compassion vs. Ego
As children grow, their sense of self naturally strengthens. But alongside the ‘I’, there’s a critical need to nurture the ‘we’. Compassion and empathy are muscles that need exercise. Without opportunities to share and give, these qualities might remain underdeveloped.
The Consequences of Solo Prosperity
In a world increasingly defined by personal success and achievement, the idea of collective happiness can seem quaint. Yet, history and wisdom remind us that true fulfillment often comes from shared experiences and achievements. Prosperity, when walked alone, can lead to an impoverished spirit.
Nurturing the 'We' in a World of 'I'
How do we, as parents and educators, inculcate the values of sharing and empathy in children? It might begin with creating situations where children need to share, negotiate, and empathize. It’s about teaching them the value of ‘us’ and ‘ours’, not just ‘me’ and ‘mine’.
Conclusion: Are We Raising Children in a Vacuum of Individualism?
In our efforts to streamline parenting, to make it free of conflicts and tears, are we missing out on imparting essential life skills? Are we raising a generation skilled in asserting the 'I' but unfamiliar with the strength of 'we'? The real question that lingers is, in the long journey of life, filled with its share of challenges and triumphs, isn't the ability to share, care, and empathize the most
Do you agree that parents are 'squarely responsible' for the dying 'art of sharing' among children?
A. Yes, parents are the primary culprits.
B. No, parents alone cannot be blamed.
valuable legacy we can leave our children?
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